Rich fantasy life

[supergee]

I am pathologically vanilla about sex. My attitude towards power and domination is so phobic that I don't want that stuff anywhere near my sex life. The healthy part is that I have no desire to keep others from doing it. Here Cecilia Tan, who writes excellent fiction about BDSM, has written a thoughtful discussion making clear that the line between fantasy and reality defines consent.

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[serene]

I sometimes joke that I'm so vanilla, my safeword is "Ouch," and I mostly agree with the article. I also have enough self-interest to say "I don't want other people being able to tell me what to fantasize about, or what to do during my Nekkid Happy Fun Timez, so I don't want to ever put myself in a position to dictate that to others."

I think it was Heather Nichol (Darkhawk) who said something like this on alt.polyamory: "My 'ewwww' reaction to something shouldn't have the force of law."

[mslorelei]

Given that, I'm impressed that you're willing to read my Tumblr feed.

[supergee]

I do tend to skip quickly away from the pictures.